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Is my Tween Video-Chatting with Strangers???

I invite your video-chatting tween to read Rana’s sobering story about how a nationally ranked 14 year old gymnast lost her life – because she trusted strangers

Parenting And Stuff

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I didn’t post a lot lately, being engaged in my new parents site, http://www.parents-space.com .

It’s coming up nicely I think! 60 Contributors already.

The variety of contributors results in discussing many topics, some are fairly new to me. I bet that I’m not alone here.

A naive parent I am,  a species that cannot survive for long in the 21 century.

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Breaking the Silence for “Life is too Short to be Mad or Sad all the Time” Rana

How does a judge tell the parents of a victim, “your daughter may still be here if you hadn’t pursued ‘this;'” and proceed to give two rapists one year of house arrest?? God help us all – Break the silence!

Vent with Me!

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Empowering

Not a Victim - A Survivor

Hate in Your Heart Will Consume You

In response to hatred

Stranger Alert

Today’s Inspiration for our Tomorrows:
God knows what He is doing. Don’t be discouraged by your closed doors. If God wants a door to open, you can be certain it will open. All the forces of darkness cannot stop it.
Commentary: not just closed doors. We mustn’t be discouraged by the wrong doors and deviations from the chosen path!
Do you keep a written record of your successes? If not, I encourage you to start a victory log. It can be as simple as a running list in a notebook, or a text doc on your phone. Write down your successes each day. This will log them into your long-term memory, which enhances your self-esteem and builds your self-confidence. It’s also nice to have as a reference for down the line when you need a little boost. 🙂
Commentary: A victory log – I like the sound of that.
Today’s victory – a stranger walked onto the field where I coach a U9 girls soccer team, I asked “may I help you?” followed by “we’re in the middle of practice …” He turned out to be uncle of one of the players who immediately took offense and became defensive. How is it possible that he didn’t understand my concern for keeping a team of young players safe from strangers?! I mean – how many adults walk onto the field during a training session to talk to a player without approaching the coach first? Did I mention we hold practice near a city bus stop and a drug/mental health rehab center? Honestly!
Our team is 10 – 2 gooooo O-O-O-O-Oberhausen :0)

After hardship and trials: assault, bullying, violence Grandmother asks… Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; “Which are you?”

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She …was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.
Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners.
She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
The Grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. “What’s the point,grandmother?”
Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity–boiling water–but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water. “Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with PAIN and ADVERSITY, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a DEATH, a breakup, a FINANCIAL hardship or other TRIALS (assault, betrayal, violence, bullying) have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.
—AUTHOR UNKNOWN —
When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest – may you find the hope, faith and desire to survive, to rise to challenge, to elevate to a greater level and affect positive change.
Yours,
Lisa

Sharing Rana’s Story on Radio Interview 1/9/13

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Rana (Photo credit: desueños)

I shared Rana’s story in an interview with Gwen Gistarb:

From Sue:

Aquaintence rape happened to my youngest daughter. Legal system has done nothing. I had more anger toward the broken system than anyone. We’ve done alot of healing and with Gods help we will continue to heal. Look forward to reading your book.

http://www.lights-voices-action.com/2012/12/why-victims-of-rape-do-not-choose-to.html