Janet shared: My daughter went to a party freshman year of College. She drank too much and a guy she trusted took advantage of the situation. She wanted to come home but stuck it out. She wound up barely passing and lost her academic scholarship. Several years have passed and she seems to be doing better now but she’s just not the same outgoing trusting person she once was.
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wow – what a great interview… I’m most sorry for your family’s sad journey. No child – you or Rana – deserve that kind of invasion. While my circumstance was less pronounced. I too, endured something similiar in HS with a fellow classmate. Apparently, I deserved it for dressing up at a party. After being lured into the backyard next door, I was held down and forced to have sex. It was embarrassing and hurtful but I was able to push it aside for many years. It completely affected the kind of person I wanted to marry and, much like you, found someone that respected me in all ways. Years later, I did confront him. He said he didn’t remember it but was sorry. Seems small but the apology did matter to my healing process. Having never told anyone about the incident, I came unglued when I found out one of my friend’s daughter was date raped. They decided not to press charges. I did talk with the mother about my healing journey which I hope helped her. You are probably receiving many similar notes. Believing in God, Rana is in a great place and is comforted. In my prayers always, Kara
Thank you Kara – we’ve just got to help – no more excuses! Alcohol, Dressing a certain way, Drugs -NO —– Complete Accountability-YES
Two weeks after Rana was gone Charlie, me and our younger daughter gave statements at the sentencing of the two men who pled “no contest” to the lesser charge of “lewd and lascivious acts against a minor.” Instead of the 15 yrs they should have received, they got house arrest because they had connections in their small town. On top of that repulsive injustice – the judge chastised my family for pursuing charges at all. He actually said, “maybe Rana would still be here…if you hadn’t pressed charges…”
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